The gym is an ideal place to start a relationship, right off the bat you know that you are both into physical fitness. This presents a unique opportunity for you to start a relationship when going to the gym at the same time as working on your biceps.
When a girl is attracted to you, she will do many things unconsciously, which can be little “tells” that you can use to determine whether or not she’s into you.
Whatever you do, try to consider these with a completely unbiased viewpoint. If you are asking yourself if a girl at the gym is attracted to you, then there is a good chance that you’re into her.
Don’t let the fact that you’re into her cloud your judgment and make you think that she’s doing things that she is really not. With that out of the way, here are the 3 ways to tell if a girl at the gym is attracted to you.
She is Constantly Making Eye Contact With You
This is probably the #1 indicator of attraction because we tell a lot with our eyes when it comes to showing attraction. In an average workout session, how many times do you catch her staring and/or looking at you?
If a girl at the gym looks at you much more than the average person, there’s a good chance that she thinks that you’re attractive. If a girl at the gym smiles at you, and not at others, this also may be an indication that she is into you.
Also, be sure that there is no other reason that she could be looking at you so often. Are you constantly staring at her while she’s at the squat rack? People can sense when someone is staring at them. Do you have food on your face? Kidding… kind of. Cover your bases!
Another thing to consider is her facial expressions and body language when you catch her staring at you.
Is she conveying negative emotions? Maybe a frown or even just a look of sadness? Then she probably does not mean anything by her staring, unless you actually pissed her off somehow. She is more likely just looking at you on accident because you were stimuli and she was in between sets, or something along those lines.
But how about if she has a look of positive emotions on her face? Maybe if she has a slight smile or even happy eyes—try it right now. Smile widely, and slowly lower the smile, but keep your eyes in the same position. Although you’re not smiling, you are radiating happiness. It is not the easiest to pick up on, but with time it will come easier.
She Makes Moves to Get Closer to You
You know what I’m talking about; let’s say she’s doing shoulder press, and you head over to the squat rack. If 2 minutes later she is magically doing calf raises within a stone’s throw of you, that’s a good sign.
This alone doesn’t tell you that much, but take in all of the information and come to an appropriate conclusion. Does it seem like she is doing a random routine, constantly getting closer or staying near to you? This is an indication that she might be into you.
It makes sense, if you’re attracted to someone, you’ll probably do whatever you can to stay in their general vicinity as much as possible. At the same time, if someone feels uncomfortable with another person, they will stay away from that person as best as they can.
You probably do the same thing, whether consciously or unconsciously. Do you ever find yourself conveniently using a machine nearby to the one that she is using? To test if she is attracted to you, actively go where she is not, so you can tell if she is getting into your vicinity.
Also, remember that some girls will purposely avoid the area of the gym that you are in because they feel uncomfortable around people that they are attracted to. This is why you can’t take any one of these indications as the do or die indicator, but use them all together while keeping in mind that they may consciously do the opposite to not give suspicion.
She’s Attempted to Make Contact With You
There are a couple of different ways that a girl from the gym could try to contact you which could indicate some level of attraction.
The first is by trying to talk to you, in any context or situation. She could be asking you for a spot on the bench, how many sets you have left on a certain machine, what time the gym closes, for a piece of advice; literally anything.
Some of these questions are more obvious than others—if she asks you anything personal without you initiating the conversation, there is a great chance that she is attracted to you at some level.
However, if she asks you a mundane question like “how many more sets do you have on this machine?”, then it’s much more difficult to extract any hidden meaning behind it. Maybe she really just wants to use the machine that you’re hogging.
Eventually, you’ll learn to play it by ear and read the meta verbal communication that she’s displaying to better discern if she’s into you.
The maybe more common way that she could initiate contact with you these days is through social media. This may be a more common occurrence in a smaller town or city, where people are more likely to be linked by direct mutual friends.
If a girl sends you a friend request or tries to follow you on Instagram 1 day, 2 days, or even a week after a good pump at the gym where you both were there, she may have found you attractive and wanted to do some digging.
She likely talked to some of her friends about the cute guy that she saw at the gym, to see if anybody knows who it is. Lo and behold, you guys have a mutual connection, and suddenly you have a new follower. That’s a great sign!
Make the Final Test
So that’s a few indications of how to tell if a girl at the gym is attracted to you. Take these potential indicators as they are; potential indicators.
Just because she is suddenly using the machine next to you does not necessarily mean that she is attracted to you.
Just because you two have met eyes twice in your last workout does not necessarily mean that she is attracted to you.
Just because she’s followed you on Instagram, you guessed it, does not necessarily mean that she is attracted to you.
But if you’ve run into several of these indications, or all of them, then there is a better chance that she is into you.
So where do you go from here? Test your theory! Next time the two of you are at the gym at the same time, try to talk to her. Try to keep in mind that the timing will never be perfect, and doing this will always feel uncomfortable.
Try to talk to her about whatever feels natural; ask about her routine, how long she’s been going to this gym or a wide array of other conversation starters. Keep in mind that what you say won’t have as big of an effect as you think.
If she is really not into you, it doesn’t much matter what you say, she won’t give a lot of effort to continue the conversation.
On the other hand, if she really is into you, she’ll do her best to keep the conversation flowing no matter what stupidity comes out of your mouth. Okay, maybe not no matter what stupidity comes out of your mouth…
One of the major benefits of talking to her is that there is not any obligation to making any sort of move. If you start a conversation with her and it is extremely dry, or she seems very disinterested, then just say “cool, have a good rest of your workout!”
This does one of two things. The first is that you will feel less “embarrassment”, which is not necessarily something you should run from in the first place, but in certain instances is not a bad thing.
The second is it will make her very confused. If she is extremely attractive, she will likely assume that you were hitting on her and wanted to take her out. If you just end the conversation without actually making any sort of move, she will have a lot of curiosity.
Curiosity is important, if she’s wondering “why didn’t he ask me for my number?”, then you are in a good place. In the next little while, she may reconsider and ponder you and your intentions. She may think that she has misjudged you and that you are higher status than she thought. And you never know, she may even try to spark up a new conversation so that she can ask you for your number, or give you another chance to ask her out.
Summing it All Up
There are a couple of things that a girl at the gym will do, potentially unconsciously, that signifies that she may be attracted to you. If she is constantly making unprovoked eye contact with you or staring at you, always trying to get in your general vicinity, and attempted to make contact with you both in or out of the gym, these are potential attraction signs.
Do not let a one-off experience give you false hopes, but use these all together. If you suspect her of being into you and think there is a potential for a relationship of some kind, try to talk to her. Within 1 minute you will have a better idea of if there is anything there, and how to move forward.